How to Spend More Time with Kids

family evening gathering
family evening gathering

Many parents at the end of the day find themselves completely exhausted. Take the child to school, collect his briefcase, pick up from school after school, teach lessons with him, prepare dinner, bathe, read before going to bed … Add to this the work and other activities that adult life cannot do without. In the evening, parents barely have enough strength to get to bed. And this routine is repeated day by day. Every day you spend with a small child seems like a week to you, and every week as a month.

And yet, when you celebrate the birthdays of a child, it seems to you that time goes at an incredible speed. In one instance, a one-year-old becomes a five-year-old, a little more – and he is already 15. Young parents are faced with this inexorable run of time when the children grow up right before their eyes. Every day brings new achievements and new reasons for a surprise. But the rapid pace of modern life often prevents us from enjoying all the features of childhood.

Many of us have heard of such new trends as “slow”, strict parenting, conscious parenting, etc. However, many experts say that the whole process of education is reduced to one principle: parents need to spend more quality time with their children. Children need to see who you are and how you live your life. And, in turn, they help you better understand who you are.

Not every day you spend with your child will be perfect, but one day, when he begins an independent life, you will feel deep satisfaction, because you gave him everything to succeed in life, and to yourself – everything to become successful parents. Time cannot be slowed down, but it can be optimized. Therefore, while the child is still with you and makes a mess in his room, go to him before bedtime to wish a good night.

Pajama walks

Bedtime may be too hectic for the baby. There is a good way to calm him down – a “pajama” walk. Of course, walking in pajamas is only worth it when the weather permits. This will allow the child to relax, and you – spend time with him, which could be spent on watching cartoons or computer games. The main element of such a walk is pajamas. When the child bathed, brushed his teeth and put on his pajamas, put him in a stroller (or, if the child is a little older, just put on sneakers) and slowly walk around the neighborhood. Do not take food for a walk (after all, the child has already brushed his teeth), do not play active games, you can not even talk. A short walk will lead to the fact that upon returning home, the child will be ready for bed.

Pizza evening

Family dinners are good on their own, but even more children like theme dinners. It can be an evening of pizza, sushi or Italian cuisine. When children are interested and fun, they willingly talk with their parents at dinner.

Walk more often

When we drive a car everywhere, even over short distances, trying to save time, we actually lose invaluable moments that we can spend with a child. The next time you need to take your child somewhere, go there on foot. A walk together is a great way to slow down and spend more time with your child. Tell him where you are going, and talk about what you see along the way. Hold his hand if he has not yet begun to feel shy. If you are taking your child to a training session or to a music school and usually then return to pick him up, you can bring along a work laptop or book to pass the time. After waiting for the end of the training, take the child home.

Play his games with your child

If you bought a game console for your child, learn how to play it yourself. So you can get in touch with his world. Why is it important? Firstly, games evoke a spirit of competition, and children are pleased to see their parents as simple people with human emotions. Secondly, even if you are not playing very well, it will be fun. Thirdly, many games imitate real actions (for example, football, basketball, and other sports). If you cannot really play these games with your child, computer games will help you. However, do not spend too much time on them so that virtual reality does not replace physical.

How to Have Time for Everything – Life Hacks for Moms

mother watching her baby in an inflated play house

Life has turned upside down and spun around a small crying baby. What you learn, will change your daily routine and your attitude to living that will really help to keep up with everything.

The solution was to study literature on time-management, baby psychology, and parenting. I prefer audiobooks. When I put my daughter to sleep on my chest, I turn them on and gain new information eagerly.

Since then I’ve kept our home neat and tidy with a considerable number of rooms, I always have fresh food on the table, my head is always washed, my clothes are ironed. In addition, I carry on my blog and currently working on a new book. And besides it, I don’t forget to have time for my kids, husband, and myself.

1. Calm down and relax

It turns out that a baby, especially such a small one, is completely in the biofield of his mother and feels her emotions very well. If the baby is unlucky and has an anxious mother who is worried for any reason, then the kid feels all this and becomes very restless. And then you get a vicious circle – from the fact that he is anxious, there may be colic due to nerves and poor appetite, and short sleep. Therefore, the first and most important step to keep pace with everything is to calm down and relax, trust the higher powers, the baby himself and exhale.

2. Admit it honestly

It goes very often, what happens to us is actually beneficial to us. Although we can complain about fate. So it was with me. I complained to everyone that my daughter was sleeping in the afternoon only lying on me, and that was two or three hours. But actually it was the only time when I could lie down calmly, think about life, and have a nap if the night was sleepless. Of course, I didn’t have time to cook food in this situation, so my family was doing it, making me free from this duty. Of course, it was convenient for me! As soon as I realized this and really wanted to go back to waking life, the baby began to sleep in her crib in the afternoon.

woman in the kitchen

3. Time for yourself

Having freed up a few hours for my business, I used to start cooking and clean the apartment immediately. But when my daughter woke up, I was tired and irritated. There was no time to read a book or sit at the computer with a cup of tea. Then I learned from the same books that I wasn’t organizing things properly. The time when the baby sleeps is mine. It’s essential. I devote it just to what my soul wants. When I do all the other things, you ask? When the baby is awake. I take the baby to the kitchen, put the bassinet in the center and make lunch and dinner singing songs with my kid. The baby watched me interested and listened to my singing. The same is for cleaning, washing, and other chores.

4. The focus is on the main things

These are your baby, husband, and yourself. Anything else can wait. Dishes can lie in a dirty sink and the world will not collapse. The floor can also be cleaned tomorrow. Food can be ordered from a restaurant or assigned to your husband to cook. But if you don’t pay attention to the baby until he’s full of his mother, it will be a disaster for everybody. Yes, and if you don’t pay attention to yourself, then the little baby’s whims make you extremely exhausted, and I become irritated, ready to swoop on anybody who appears on my way. And it could be a husband, and such behavior doesn’t improve our relationship.

5. Do not try to catch everything

This is a basic rule if you’re wondering how to keep up with everything with a small baby. One or two things at once max. If more chores is possible to deal with – that’s great. But if you plan dozens of things and don’t do even a half, you will be very upset about yourself. This discontent takes away strength, energy and makes the nervous system very shaky.

Here are the main methods that help me do everything that I need. I hope they will help you too!